Hi,
recently, (maybe since wednsday or so) there has been something on my mind. I don't think it's too big a deal, but it was something I was planning to ask my parents, or at least my mom, to begin with. Now, I put off asking until yesterday. I did it because I was frightened. Im not sure why, but I was. I felt uncomfortable asking, so I talked to my friends on MSN and lay on my bed (which makes me feel invincible, by the way) until I felt I would be fine to go and ask. So I went into my mom's room where she was folding some laundry (yeah, sorry, no WU's. But my sister does!).
"Uh, mmm, mom? Lately, I've been wanting to try, err- curious to try dy--g... dying my hair..."
Well, she laughed at me for a while and asked "which colour were you thinking?"
I added that I was thinking something temporary that washes out in like 10 days.

Im not exactly sure how the thing turned out. She mumbled something about "you're too young to... well, I guess I started when I was 14..." Then something about "would it damage you hair?" Im told I have nice hair, I guess it compliments my baboon's-ass-of-a-face I have.

This morning threw me though. My parents were on their way out to an art show. My sister asked if she could have some friends over. They both said "sure," and my dad added that they could go swiming. No adults would be home. My mom didn't like the idea, but she only said "You know how I feel." Didn't say "yes, it's fine with me," or "you better not."
I thought my mom wasn't too keen on my thought mainly because what would someone think of me? or worse, them?! But my dad's idea sounded pretty irrisponsible and my mom didn't put her foot down. I don't know if she knew they wouldn't or what. But if they did and something happened, what would be thought of them?
Gosh, I am confused.

I was hoping someone could clue me in on to what the reason behind my mom's concern is, because I think I am missing it completely.

Well, thanks and I am sorry it is so very long.

It would help if you stated you age and you sisters. Parent's allow certain things at certain ages, and sometimes not even then based on other factors such as your level of responsability or moral values.

Other times it can be favoritsm of other siblings, or maybe they are just overprotective in some situations, and too slack where it realy counts.

Without more info, it sounds like your Mom is trying to get used to the idea that you and your sister aren't her little precious darlings anymore, that she can dress up in cutesy little clothes... It does sound, however, that she is getting herself ready for cutting the apron strings. Your Dad isn't being irresponsible, but actually allowing your sister to prove her capability to be responsible, to have friends over without the need for adult supervision.

It's kind of their answer to your getting older and more mature / responsible / etc.

Thanks for the replies, guys. I feel really dumb for saying that my dad was irresponsible now. There was this thing that happened in Monteral with the neighbors. this boy, maybe 6 or so, and his mom were in their pool. She fell unconcious and while her son ran to get help, she drowned. My mom used to bring that up about swimming without some one out of the water.
Im 16 and my sister'll be 15 in a week or so.
It might very well be favoritism, because basically, my sister is the better of the two of us in terms of all things measureable (school, sports. But I am not saying I am better than she is with non-subjective "stuff").
Well, I guess I will go talk to them later. Again, only I'll try to be concise.


Anyways, now I have some things to think about, so Thank you, again.

You never said what color hair you have now or what color you want to dye it?

Quote: Originally Posted by Pharaoh You never said what color hair you have now or what color you want to dye it?

heh, you want to know? Well, I actually have a picture of my hair, so I will attach it, but basically, it's brown. Oh do I feel like a dork.

And I wasn't indending to do something like red or blue or pink. Black was what I was thinking. To try, mmm, kind of for fun...

and now I watch as good thing turns to rust...

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hmm
well i do believe we all had these urges to change our look
i would talk to your parents about this tell them you want to see how this will turn out
tell them you think your are responsible for deciding on somethings for yourself also say this is a way of expreesing yourself say you have done alot of thinking and that you have set your mind to this and maybe they will listen

if you need anymore advice feel free to msg me on aim or msn

When i was in college I colored my hair blue. At that point in my life it didn't change anything about the way I thought of myself or of how other people thought of me. At your age it may have bigger significance.

Edit: BTW I am a redhead.

First and foremost Hawk, congrats on talkin to your parents. Comunication is a great thing in families today. The more you talk the more the trust builds...as long as you don't talk BS. Hell even ask her to help you dye your hair.

Trouble in a pool used to never be a big thing but the more people get hurt the bigger a deal it becomes and thats when people start to worry. In some cities there is a law that you have to have a fence around every pool.

Wow, all of you. Thank you so much.
Project Vegas, I am deffinetly going to talk to them again. To be honest, I am not really sure how it would turn out, but that's why my idea involves temporary dye.
Lokie, I completely agree with you. Thanks for saying it though, it makes me feel like Im off in the correct direction.

Thank you so much again. The day I meet someone an eithth as helpful as all of you is the day ice forms on my bedroom walls.