HoJo

Quote: Originally Posted by mazura any ideas about how to address this with her???

Yeah, STFU, ignore it and go love and care for her. I dealt with this problem for many years with my Grandmother as she was disabled. I just wish she had lived to 86.

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mazura

Quote: Originally Posted by Iateronmly Neg rep me back, please. Nothing would give me more pleasure than to have a perm mark to know I irked someone like you.

it seemed to me the sock and feather was a place to discuss life issues...why would i neg you back, i don't carry a flamenwurfer around any more...relax mr smooth operator sir...

Quote: Originally Posted by lokies_mom OK. I'm OK! Dude, what you do is get a nice shower seat and put it where the water comes right down on her. If you can't wash her with your eyes closed...LOL

we're already doing that...

Quote: Originally Posted by lokie This must be your first time in dealing with elders? It has to be, because running a hotel we get them all the time. I don't know if its the lack of takin a shower or just the natural odor someone gives off at that age. It would seem the older they get the more intense the odor....You could have ended your opening statement with asking if this odor was normal not "how can I address this with her."

i was beginning to wonder if anyone here was cool headed...

yes it is my first time and if it was normal or not was one of the things i was trying to find out...shoulda put that in there...thanks for the reasoned response

godfoot

*Damnit, lost another typed thread by timeout....grr.*

Anyways, the gist of what I had written is that a few people took the first post wrong (IMO) and considered it a complaint rather than the question that it was intended to be.
mazura then threw out an inflammatory phrase (intentional?) when he felt misunderstood (the high horse comment).
Feathers were ruffled.
Bandwagon bashers jumped in to help (when their help was not even close to being needed or necessary)
Situation escates to it's current status.

Even with that entire situation being inflammatory on both sides now, I will offer my opinion which oddly enough mirrors much of what has been said here already but without getting bent in the process.

If you think of all the times your grandmother likely wiped your ass when you were too young to even remember soiling your trousers, or any other number of things along those lines.... then the answer should be obvious. Deal with the smell and care for your grandmother just like she did for you. Outside of that you could likely use some talcum powder of something along those lines.
I am sure we all realize that you love your grandmother, but your choice of words was likely not the best for the situation.

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mazura

very well then...even though i believe the Dr.Phil bandwagon has been just as offensive as the subject of the thread (as i'm sure it was intended to be) and childish, i offer my apologies...though i doubt they will be accepted...



in light of the fact that this thread has unintentionally brought up bad memories and offended many members, i make the following request...

if possible, i would like one of the admin's to delete this thread so as to cause no further offense...if this is something i can do let me know...

RBIEZE

Quote: Originally Posted by mazura very well then...even though i believe the Dr.Phil bandwagon has been just as offensive as the subject of the thread (as i'm sure it was intended to be) and childish, i offer my apologies...though i doubt they will be accepted... in light of the fact that this thread has unintentionally brought up bad memories and offended many members, i make the following request... if possible, i would like one of the admin's to delete this thread so as to cause no further offense...if this is something i can do let me know...

It's ok to make mistakes,it's how you deal with it that makes the difference.


Apology accepted.

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$SOLID$ Necro

Chances are the smell is going to be ingrained in her skin and clothes. Even a bath cannot remove it when you put clean clothes back on that have been "Soaked" with her scent for so long.

If it bothers you that much, get that stuff Coroner's put under there nose when examining dead bodies.

You could also get her perfume for X-Mas or a B-Day...but chances are she is beyond the point of caring, and probably cannot smell it as others have mentioned.

This is a real issue that needs to be talked about, we all want to take care of our elders and there are going to be problems not easily solved or dealt with, advice is often needed.

I hope that this has been a learning experience for you...some of our longtime members have very large fangs that come out in a heartbeat, they will tell it like it is if they think you are whining unnecesarily.

Choose your words a bit more carefully if you want to avoid conflicts in the future

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Lokie

Quote: Originally Posted by mazura if possible, i would like one of the admin's to delete this thread so as to cause no further offense...if this is something i can do let me know...

It's been awhile, have you come to terms with his issue?

This thread wont be deleted, it's something you had the balls to bring up but just didn't use the right words.

killert

I'm 14 and I dont care how my grandma smells, hell.. I just happy shes still alive.

It's almost sad how a 14y/o has more decenty then you .


I accept your Apology but you sir are still an ass.

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mazura

Quote: Originally Posted by Lokie It's been awhile, have you come to terms with his issue?

no, i've been working some insane hours lately (i'm a truck driver) and haven't had a chance to do much when i'm home other than sleep...i have seen her a few times and her mind is really starting to go now...

Quote: Originally Posted by killert I'm 14 and I dont care how my grandma smells, hell.. I just happy shes still alive. It's almost sad how a 14y/o has more decenty then you . I accept your Apology but you sir are still an ass.

oh yeah...well you're a towel...

for fks sake...i didn't have a problem getting neg'd from the two who felt like i disrespected them...but for you to neg me after i had tried to smooth things over with them (and anyone else who got bent up) really shows your ass...i considered responding in the same manner you did, but i'm trying to leave my rage and judgementalism behind me...

while thinking about how i was going to reply, i remembered something someone far wiser than i once said, "never argue with a chicken-head, she'll just bring you down to her level and beat you with experience"...that's you peaches...

PHLAK

Quote: Originally Posted by mazura but for you to neg me after i had tried to smooth things over with them (and anyone else who got bent up) really shows your ass...i considered responding in the same manner you did, but i'm trying to leave my rage and judgementalism behind me...

Yeah killert that did not show any class. This was water over the bridge and should of just been let go. I am still upset about the original post but that was long ago now and time to move on.

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CubanConnectionZ

Be Kind To The Older Folks, You Can Learn Alot From Them!!!

I Only Meet One Of My Grand Parents.

RESPECT YOUR ELDERS!!!

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