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Quote: Originally Posted by mot19 So the old saying. Im completly positive its true. I look around in my band, my friends, and i relize just how much it is true. I seem to one of the few rare "nice guys" around our group. Yet i never find anyone. And i know most of you will say "Your young you have plenty of time" but it seems that 4 years of dating has tought me enough. I look at some of my friends, and see that their complete dicks. Cheating, lieing, verbally abusive. And yet they always get the girl. It got to the point of me almost fighting my lead singer of my band because of him hurting one of my close friends which also happens to be his girl. He had made alot of mistakes and i tryed to forgive untill he made the worst one he could have. Yet she took him back after 6 times of it. Why? My other friend for example lied to his girlfriend for a year about going into the military, then told her and she dumped him. I stood up for her because she is also someone ive known for years since we were kids. What happened? I lost one of my best friends, and the drummer in my band. Why is it that the nice ones always pay? Im just not quite sure. I would never do anything like these dicks do to girls yet they always pick them. Maybe they just want a badass, im not sure. It makes no sence to me. Well this my friends is to the guys that open the doors for girls, give them your jacket when their cold, walk them home, take care of them while their sick, buy them flowers just because, hold their hair why they puke(lol), stand up for them in times of trouble, and are there for them in their time of need. To the nice guys.

agreed i fall into every catagory listed at the end! in the last paragraph and all of the top crap is strue its a sham isent it?

Nerdz

1 year later, and I found this.

Straight from a womens mouth on why nice guys finish last..

YouTube - Nice Guys Finish Last? Not with me!

Gotta love googletubers like her.

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Quote: Originally Posted by Rob There is one thing that I've learned over my many years... #1 "Nice guys" view themselves as heroes...wearing a suit of armor and riding up on a white horse to "save" the damsel in distress. Unfortunately, even if they do land this type of girl, they wind up getting sh*t upon, mentally, physically, and psychologically. These damsels will use and abuse you, and finally in the end, wind up dumping you to go after the bad boy again. #2 Yet, there is a girl in their lives right now just dying to start a relationship with them. However, the "nice guy" sees them as a buddy or a good friend and never as a potential love interest. Then, a few years down the road when this good friend is married off, you realize that you made a big mistake in not snatching up that prize. Being a "nice guy" is nothing more than being wrapped up in your own self-destruction. I'm not talking about being a d*ck like those other guys. What I'm talking about is to give up on the girl that needs to be saved and offer them friendship instead. Go after that friend...you'll be glad you did.

Since I haven't been around these forums in a long time, or shall i say contributed, because I've just been browsing for ideas and what not for builds, ideas and suggestions.. Figured it was about time to say something on here even if it was a bit old... Been a long evening/morning of smoking and just browsing/listening to music... So here i go....

Definitely one of the most accurate, i should say, things i've read/heard in a while. I'm sure theres alot of varying age categories on this forum, as there usually are on large forums, that have gone through the Nige Guy vs. Bad Guy scenario.

I'm only 20 years old(1 more month woot!) and already a fourth year college student(WTF Happened to my life already? lol). I'd consider myself an average guy in the sense that I'm not the "Bad Boy" in the sense that I do not have any tattoos, piercings, I don't cheat, I don't abuse girls in any way, but then again neither am I that night in shining armor.

But I can't help but to relate to how accurate #1 is. I dated a girl this past school year basically describing VERY accurately the type of girl who liked Bad Boys. First thing I thought when I first met this girl was, Wow. BEAUTIFUL, fun, smart, nice, basically your barbie doll "Dream Girl." And before we were in a relationship, she had had boyfriends who had yelled at her, and abused her, not only physically and mentally, but sexually(Didn't find that out till later on in the relationship =/)... For the most part we were as happy as could be, hardly spoke of the abuse she endured cuz she never liked to talk about it, but other than that it was very happy andstable relationship. Then one day she decided she wanted a break. Ended up finally actually breaking up with me about a week later. Decided to stay friends. And no more than a month had gone by that she had stopped talking to me despite wanting to be "friends." I never realized it at first.. but that "friend" meant being the guy to get her alcohol, take her to parties, take her to the mall, that kind of thing... Basically I was her bitch till one day I said **** that, once some friends of mine pointed it out.... Thank you guys.... And now, shes actually back with one of her old BFs who used to be an "asshole" to her and always told her she looked fat and needed to lose weight(Even though she looked like a freakin model). So gentleman... Watch out for those girls of #1 who have dated assholes, and say they're tired of them.. Cuz chances are.. they're probably not and are just looking for a little short term support to get their bearings..

Now guys... #2... That ones a tuffy... Distance, time in life i.e. if your away at college, planning your future career, possible military... Those kinda factors like to screw with your relationships no matter what... And for some odd reason its always when your about to leave somewhere, or she leaving, that you finally "notice" that girl who has shown interest in you, wants to be with you, but you for some reason fail to "miss it" for what ever benign reasoning. As I look back on it, there was a girl like that in HS, but I was thinking about going 3k miles away to college wondering about all these new girls I would meet... Only later did I realize... wholly ****... I could be with her right now and i'd be happy as hell. I'm sure you've all had that one too.

And now that i'm going back to Cali... Theres a girl here on the EC that i've been friends with that I just realized that she to is that nice, shows interest, good looking girl that i'd love to be with... Little late considering i'm going home in a month, and possibly never returning to the EC again. So guys.. Keep your eyes open, they're there.. we just gotta look and pay a little more attention... Cuz if your the guy who does the "right thing" most of the time, more than likely there is a girl interested in you right now and shes probably just one of your "friends"...

Nice little 4.30am bull**** comin outa my mouth... but there it is from a guy who also considers himself not necessarily the "Nice Guy" but one of the ones who does the "Right thing"

So as Rob said...

Quote: Originally Posted by Rob There is one thing that I've learned over my many years... What I'm talking about is to give up on the girl that needs to be saved and offer them friendship instead. Go after that friend...you'll be glad you did.