I have been having realy bad luck for the last year and its just getting worse, I always try to stay oppitmistic and think I will end soon but I dosnt, for example I strained my neck and couldnt turn it for a few days, I hurt my nee, my friend broke one of my psp's and my other one just died, I went through two harddrives in two different computers, lost two close family members, have realy bad stomach problems, lots of stress from school work, I have a good day only about once a month. And its agonizing to go to school, i mean I dont get bullied or anything, if anything I do the bullying *jk*. But every single day is the same exact thing, nothing ever happens my school life is less then medicore everyday is like dejavu. What could i do to stop this!?!?!

Has this ever happened to you guys? How long did it last??

You pretty much described about 4 years straight of my life, bud. the only thing that you can do is muscle through, show the world that you won't be ground down, and seek out your contentment in whatever form you can. I found an amazing ammt of comfort just in hanging out at the internet cafe that I used to work at, only NOT when the bosses were around . . . They were a bit creepy and annoying, but the regulars were a hoot and a half.

Just try to find something new like once a month or so . . . break your routine in little ways and sooner or later you'll find your routine has become anything BUT routine. It does get better. Take it from me.

D

Just try and do something new every week or two, anything will do as long as it is something new that you wouldn't normally do.

Quote: Originally Posted by drougnor You pretty much described about 4 years straight of my life, bud. the only thing that you can do is muscle through, show the world that you won't be ground down, and seek out your contentment in whatever form you can. I found an amazing ammt of comfort just in hanging out at the internet cafe that I used to work at, only NOT when the bosses were around . . . They were a bit creepy and annoying, but the regulars were a hoot and a half. Just try to find something new like once a month or so . . . break your routine in little ways and sooner or later you'll find your routine has become anything BUT routine. It does get better. Take it from me. D

thx for the help guys, I know it can be worse thats how I can manage to keep a positive aditude but im realy geting tired of all this crap happening to me, it gets harder to stay positive.

Quote: Originally Posted by Supersteve9219 I have been having realy bad luck for the last year and its just getting worse, I always try to stay oppitmistic and think I will end soon but I dosnt, for example I strained my neck and couldnt turn it for a few days, I hurt my nee, my friend broke one of my psp's and my other one just died, I went through two harddrives in two different computers, lost two close family members, have realy bad stomach problems, lots of stress from school work, I have a good day only about once a month. And its agonizing to go to school, i mean I dont get bullied or anything, if anything I do the bullying *jk*. But every single day is the same exact thing, nothing ever happens my school life is less then medicore everyday is like dejavu. What could i do to stop this!?!?! Has this ever happened to you guys? How long did it last??

id go to the doctor about the stomach problems..... it could be something like IBS, which i personally have.... and it gets worse under stress, thats just my 2 cents though

as the others said... change your routine... do diffrent stuff... meet new people.

do somthing you would never do.. like sqaure dancing.. or bungee jumping =)

if that doesnt work for you.. take the time to reflect on your problems.. look at people who are close to you and look at there problems... how does yours compare? sometimes if u take a stepback and look at other peoples problems you realize that the ones you have, may have a soultion.

if all else fail... seek medical advice...

Like I posted here before, I work at a Mental Hospital, so whenever I see a thread like this I'll try
to help to the best of my abilities.... from work but also from life-expierience...

Supersteve9219 what you descibe... I felt it almost exactly the same when I was about 16 years old...
It lasted about a year.... and slowly faded away.... in my case it was "solved" by "doubling" a year....
it seemed horrible when it happened but it quickly turned out to be the right choice... my grades were better, and I actually enjoyed my school work (which I had never before)... in that year I also picked up playing e-bass guitar, fitness & kayakking (hope I spelled that right..)...

I gained like 20 pounds in muscle & suddenly girls looked quite differently at me...

It's still odd if I think about it.... If I "recap" it... my school choice was just a bit "too high" a choice for me,
it was too much, too fast... I could not cope with it... doing a year over gave me the opportunity to "catch up"...

Which was great for my self-esteem... My dad pushed me to go & play an instrument... and I did and I
enjoyed it... I wasn't that great of a bass player but I met loads of new friends, playing in a band......
Don't play the bass no more but I still play Tin Whistle (yup... I'm a sucker for Irish tunes..).

I owe a great deal to my 'sports teacher as well... he saw I was unhappy & invited to me a special
fitness program... lot's of swimming & weight lifting... it was hard at first but after a while it felt I
could take on the world! He also stimulated me to become an enlisted sergeant... which holds
my finest life lessons & let me see life in true perspective....


These are my expieriences.... I hope they give you some hope... the key is in finding your personal "triggers", which can improve your life dramatically... In my case they were;
- "doubling" a year
- picking up a music instrument
- sports

Yours might be different, completely different...but they remain what they are... means of 'picking up your life, crawling out of that "pitch black" pit & move on...


My school mentor (doubling), dad (music) & sports teacher (sports..lol..) were all I need..
In your case it might be a good friend, relative, your doctor, girlfriend, teacher... you name it...

Should you have troubles in finding your "trigger" please don't hesitate to visit your doctor & talk
about it... the symptoms you mention do not ..yet... point to a mild depression but rather to stress &
anxiety, common for teenagers & adolescents... he or she might point you to a Psychologist (NOT a Shrink, that's not needed in this situation)... a Psychologist can really help you in finding your path
in life... if you can't helped by your "surroundings"....

Supersteve9219.... you are going through a lot of stuff "oldtimers" like my self have gone through...
don't despair.... there IS light at the end of the tunnel....


TDR



ps... and, please, don't hesitate to PM me if you want to learn more or just give me a personal answer...
these matters are FAR too important to be ignored...I did not pick up this line of work for nothing...
this is also valid for other members who have similar issues...

Quote: Originally Posted by The Dragon Reborn Like I posted here before, I work at a Mental Hospital, so whenever I see a thread like this I'll try to help to the best of my abilities.... from work but also from life-expierience... Supersteve9219 what you descibe... I felt it almost exactly the same when I was about 16 years old... It lasted about a year.... and slowly faded away.... in my case it was "solved" by "doubling" a year.... it seemed horrible when it happened but it quickly turned out to be the right choice... my grades were better, and I actually enjoyed my school work (which I had never before)... in that year I also picked up playing e-bass guitar, fitness & kayakking (hope I spelled that right..)... I gained like 20 pounds in muscle & suddenly girls looked quite differently at me... It's still odd if I think about it.... If I "recap" it... my school choice was just a bit "too high" a choice for me, it was too much, too fast... I could not cope with it... doing a year over gave me the opportunity to "catch up"... Which was great for my self-esteem... My dad pushed me to go & play an instrument... and I did and I enjoyed it... I wasn't that great of a bass player but I met loads of new friends, playing in a band...... Don't play the bass no more but I still play Tin Whistle (yup... I'm a sucker for Irish tunes..). I owe a great deal to my 'sports teacher as well... he saw I was unhappy & invited to me a special fitness program... lot's of swimming & weight lifting... it was hard at first but after a while it felt I could take on the world! He also stimulated me to become an enlisted sergeant... which holds my finest life lessons & let me see life in true perspective.... These are my expieriences.... I hope they give you some hope... the key is in finding your personal "triggers", which can improve your life dramatically... In my case they were; - "doubling" a year - picking up a music instrument - sports Yours might be different, completely different...but they remain what they are... means of 'picking up your life, crawling out of that "pitch black" pit & move on... My school mentor (doubling), dad (music) & sports teacher (sports..lol..) were all I need.. In your case it might be a good friend, relative, your doctor, girlfriend, teacher... you name it... Should you have troubles in finding your "trigger" please don't hesitate to visit your doctor & talk about it... the symptoms you mention do not ..yet... point to a mild depression but rather to stress & anxiety, common for teenagers & adolescents... he or she might point you to a Psychologist (NOT a Shrink, that's not needed in this situation)... a Psychologist can really help you in finding your path in life... if you can't helped by your "surroundings".... Supersteve9219.... you are going through a lot of stuff "oldtimers" like my self have gone through... don't despair.... there IS light at the end of the tunnel.... TDR ps... and, please, don't hesitate to PM me if you want to learn more or just give me a personal answer... these matters are FAR too important to be ignored...I did not pick up this line of work for nothing... this is also valid for other members who have similar issues...

Woa my problems arnt that bad, just normal bad luck. I dont have problems with girls and im doing pretty good in my classes, and im not depressed, im quite happy 95%, I just cant seem to get over this back luck. But that post was helpful!



And I think I sloved my problem, after thinking long hours I thought of just thinking that my bad luck was good luck. For instance, today I left my book out side durring lunch and someone stole it!! But instead of geting upset about it I thought of it as good luck. Because im lucky that my book was stolen it made my day more exciting and different going and trying to find out if any of the teachers found my book (even tho It is gona cost me $51).