bigger&better

ok, i know this girl whom i like but i don't wnat to go up to her and make an asshat of myself so what should i do she is 1yr younger than me( I am 14) we met at a church youth thing and i don't know what i should say i have been having mixed feelings about her reactions

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drougnor

Dude, don't get hung up on feeling like you'll screw it up . . . cause that's WHY you'll screw up.

And, believe it or not, sometimes the girls LIKE a little honest fluster when a guy goes to talk to em. Shows them that they are distracting you. It's an ego boost.

So, take two deep calming breaths and walk up to her and say "Hi, I was wondering if we could talk?"

Worst case is she'll turn you down or laugh. Sure, it'll sting, but it's not like she'll flat out punch you. Well, she might . . . Depends on what kinda church you go to, I guess. (Just kidding!)

Just be yourself. That's the best anyone here's going to be able to give you, and it's the best thing you can do.

Good luck and Good Hunting!!

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z0mbi3

Completley agree with drougnor, if I'd known that when I was your age all the dads would of firmly lock up their daughters

May your pimp hand be strong

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bigger&better

well, i was thinking of typing her a note a serious note.... should i do that or is that to ***** like ?? haha

EDIT: here is the note:


To: Maleri
From *****

Hi, i was wondering how you feel about me? i mean would you "go out" with me or do you even like me? i just have been really confused over the weekend if you liked me or not. I just hope you feel the same way about me... If you want to talk you can just come get me after you read this or whenever you see me or if you don't read it ti'll you get home my cell number is 777-5080 Thanks For taking the time to Read this

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z0mbi3

Bite the bullet and just talk to her man. You'll feel like the king pimp afterwards!

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Dex

And probably the king asshat after giving her that note...

Women like confidence

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z0mbi3

That and big heat sinks

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Zer0s

Notes are lame....
Just talk to her. I know your young, but notes are very immature.
Whats worse, going up and talking to her, and her turning you down
-or-
Never saying anything ever to her and she move away....

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musclecars&computers

First of all i think ur to young 4 this to be a problem. But i was a pimping then so i can't say nothing. Talk to her. Ask one of her friends what she thinks about u. Then they will tell her that u asked about her, then she will start thinking about u.

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cutlasskel

these guys are exactly right on this... I have a 15 yr old daughter and she tells me all the time about this boy she would like to be better friends with, but he is too scared to talk to her Just buck up and talk to her, man! The worst she can do is say no...(even if she does I bet by you havin the sack to do this other girls WILL notice and may even come to talk to you) Even if she shoots you down, you will know how to approach it next time AND THERE WILL BE A NEXT TIME, TRUST ME!

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reflux

Getting talking is the only way you can get together. When you get to know each other you'll be able to tell if you're in there or not. As it stands, you're not getting anywhere. Go for it.

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ÃœBER<>POOP

Make sure you mention that you asked for girl advice from the internet. That will win you some major casanova points, Rico Suave.

Saying "Hi!", "Good Morning!", or "Need some help?" isn't that hard. Start there.

Slider

Just remember she probably has an angry father who may or may not own firearms I know I do.

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HigHTecHReDNecK

Being a father of 6 girls, i can tell you these guys are 100% right, just go talk to her, one of three thing will happen #1 she likes you and you two end up "goin' out" *god i feel old now* #2 she'll shoot ya down , oh well it happens to EVERYONE at least a dozen time in life, live and learn #3 she'll not want to GO OUT but ya might make a new friend and friends are a good thing to have and you can never have too many of them.

If you do end up goin out with her and meet the folks, REMEMBER THIS ABOVE ALL !!!!!!!!!!!

When ya meet the DAD, walk up put out your hand and say "Hello, very nice ta meet you SIR " and same with the MOM and ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS use them church manner's * no street slang, teen lingo etc etc*. I can tell you as a DAD , if a boy dont shake my hand an call me SIR , im gonna make him sweat like a stuck pig and for me its EASY * see avatar pic*

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cutlasskel

Same rules apply at my house-even if she does "like" you a sour impression on her parents can change that rather quickly.......

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j-dogg

My girl problems are going to force me either to turn gay or marry my car.

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Nerdz

All I can say here is good luck and Welcome to LIFE. Get used to it.

EDIT: forgot something else. chances are you are far more likely to marry your college mates than high school mates.

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PHLAK

Just going up and talking to a girl you like and dont know real well is one of life's experiences everyone should experience. The feeling is great and if she ends up like'n you in return the feeling goes out the roof. And you will remember the special ones for ever! The good ole days of "Puppy Love", good times!! Enjoy them you will have many more at only 14 years old!

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Darksamurai

Might just try talking to her.

Say hi and see what happens. Try to bring up something you might think you might share interest in and see if she bites.

Usually helps to say something off the wall to see if she's going to give you the time of day.

"Hi... can I ask you a quick question? Is this Churches' Chicken? The guy with the collar seemed a little upset when I asked him, so I figured I'd better ask someone else..."

She may think you're too weird to talk to... but I've gotten a lot of women to just talk to me just to see if I really am crazy or not...

Usually they find out it's not just an act, and run screaming, but I'm sure you'll have better luck

Also, try to make sure she's not going to be insulted you're asking her out in church. If you're just talking... you can maybe walk somewhere quiet and then ask her if she'd like to get together and talk some more.
I gotta admit... I'd feel pretty weird hitting on a girl in church, but I tend to take spiritual pursuits seriously (even for a non-Christian).

You ask something like, "Wanna go out"... you're asking a one-shot question... she says yes or no and that's it. Considering she doesn't know you at all, that's a real flip of the coin to see if she finds you attractive enough to gamble on.

You talk a little, you can weed out a potential bad night and maybe get to know her a little...

Anytime I didn't talk to a girl a little before I asked her out (or she asked me out)... I usually regretted it.

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bigger&better

thanx alot for your advice i will talk to her online tonight

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