Nerdz

I know this is the advice section of PR..but I was just wonder..What is a soulmate? I mean the true definition of a soulmate..Science says that us as humans look for people that look almost like us..I find this reason in acceptable..I beleave that fate controls much of our lives and is the reason why this question is in my mind..

What are soulmates? and how do u know u found her?

about a year ago a was wondering the same thing..fate had brought all over and its bought me back to where I began.

The net..well its not a big help to me..and gave bs..so I'm really looking for peoples oppinions on what they think a soulmate is..but my case it a bit different...

everytime Ive had a relationship the feeling for me didnt last over a week..or it just phased in and out..this time (my current gf is different). Shes is the only one whom my feelings have lasted beyond a week and not phased at all..the question in the back of my heart I should say..is she the one? and that sense we all have (or only I) is that this realtionship is going far..its going to last a loooong time..I dont know how long..its just some thing I know..

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DuplexEmotions

I'm in my first real reationship right now, and I am hoping to god she feels the same way about me that I do her. We do so well together, we're fun to be around and we can spend hours just talking about nothing.

Perhaps that's the real test. We've known each other for 3 years now, and have been friends long before we started dating. We really know each other, inside and out. When you can be comfortable with anything they do, you know you've found someone special.

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lokies_mom

I found my soulmate 25 years ago. You don't know it till it happens. Takes time. I was 30 years old !! so in the mean time you party

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Badaziam

You have asked a very good question. What is a soulmate? I think a soul mate is something different to everyone. When I was in my teens i swore several girls were my soulmate. They werent however. Yes they were hot and yes they were a good piece but not my soulmate. I believe that as we grow older and mature "love" takes on a whole new meaning. Im 30 years old now and have been married 10 years. I dont know how I knew she was the one...I just knew. The moment I saw her walk through the door I remember thinking to myself..."its not everyday your future walks through the door". Turns out not only did I think it but I also said it. She heard me say it and thought I was crazy. Im still crazy...crazy about my wife and crazy about the time we have together. All I can say is when you find your soulmate you will know and you will know in an instant. True love is kinda weird like that sometimes.

BigAkita

I didn't know I had a soulmate until I was married to her for 10 years. I just thought I was lucky. Just passed the 16 year mark and going strong.

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Devlyn81

I've been in many a relationship. some ended good and we still talk and others not so good. no restraining order though.
And the one think i know for certain is I know nothing.
Everytime i think i have this Love thing figured out and found a soulmate its somethign new.
Take your time. If you think shes the one wait and see only time will tell.

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caxis0

Great question!

Many people believe that their soulmate--well, that you know you've met your soulmate when they stay in your thoughts almost constantly--and you in theirs, that when you first sit and talk, you have to buffer the things you want to say because neither of you can stop long enough, you are both enjoying it so much. I can dig that.

I've heard of soulmates being referred to as the missing half that completes a person. I definitely think that is true also . . .

But, I feel that your soulmate may not stick out like a sore thumb, you might not know you've found them, even if you know them pretty well at first--I think the true test of something like this is time, someone that grows with you, and someone who grows through you, and you through them. Your soulmate, I believe, will be able to feel the way you feel, they will have the capacity and most importantly, the desire to truly understand you on a level that noone else can.

Have you found your soulmate? Man, I hope so, that would be rad and I would be envious for sure. Only time will be able to let you know that, and you can't rush time. Enjoy this! Try and know her inside and out, and even if it ends up that you all fall short of soulmates, at least you met someone who made you wonder, and that in itself is beautiful.

Bruce

NoSlak

Im with BA, Ive known my Fiancee for 6 years gone out with her for 5 years, but didnt know she was my soulmate till bout a year ago.
Im Ying to her Yang and I wanna put my Ying in her Yang too.

Sparky

Quote: Originally Posted by NoSlak Im Ying to her Yang and I wanna put my Ying in her Yang too.

Nice!

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OMFG_dude_WTF

The term "soulmate" is something women made up several centuries ago. Once men learned of this term, it was easier for one to convince a woman into marrying them, in turn getting to have sexual relations, which one of the only reasons men are actually on this planet.

Because humans have a more complex brain, they tend to make up new words and manipulate them to feel like they are not actually like animals. We have animal instincts. That is reproduction. It is the only thing that still tells us that we ARE actually animals. A mate is a mate, add some "soul" to it and it is still a mate, just with the word soul in front of it. Call it what you want, it all comes down to the same thing in the end: A lifetime mate.

Just my 2 dolla's

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Nerdz

so only time will tell basically eh..but still how do u know? i mean do u feel anything special like..a connection or anything instanly..or like do u feel full? Like caxis0 said, half of u is missing and your soulmate is the other half..do u feel full when u find her?

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BigAkita

You have to feel completely comfortable with your partner, don't feel pressured. When you can sit for hours and just talk...or not talk you're getting there. I know my wife and I can sit for hours quietly and still find things to not talk about.

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DuplexEmotions

Quote: Originally Posted by BigAkita You have to feel completely comfortable with your partner, don't feel pressured. When you can sit for hours and just talk...or not talk you're getting there. I know my wife and I can sit for hours quietly and still find things to not talk about.

I always have to get gas before my dates because we'll spend 4 hours driving around talking and by the time we're done I've gone through about $15 in gas.

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TheOutcast

Quote: Originally Posted by BigAkita ...I know my wife and I can sit for hours quietly and still find things to not talk about.

Like say, why there's another 3 rig's worth of gear coming to your house?

I had to do that, sorry to crap the thread... I read it and just cracked up...

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nev_payne

yeh a soul mate is the person your with after a long period of time - takes a different ammount of time for everyone, but its almost always 3 years or more of a strong and close relationship. I imagine it can be efined in both love and just a friendship, whereby you can relate to that person very well and never really fall out, but the relationship is kept as a friendship nothing more.

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j-dogg

A soulmate is that one person you want to have your kids. You will know it when you look into her eyes. It has been said eyes are the window into one's soul. When you lay down to sleep and you can feel her heartbeat, you can feel the love you give her each and every day, flowing through her veins. When you can feel that, then you know it's just not a piece of ass. It's the girl you want to grow old with.

Women like that are far and few in between.

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nev_payne

here we go swot style - taken from the cambridge dictionary:

Definition

soul mate noun [C]

someone, usually your romantic or sexual partner, with whom you have a special relationship, and whom you know and love very much:

Later that year she met Adam and she knew instantly that they were soul mates.

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Rob

I believe the term "soulmate" originated with Aristotle and his teachings.

"What is a friend? A single soul dwelling in two bodies."

I'm not for sure of the original Greek translation, but the variations are basically the same. Apparently he believed that (I might be talking out my butt here since it's been years since I studied Greek philosophy) man at one time strived to be like the gods. The gods, believing man's soul to be his most powerful weapon against them in their struggle, split their soul in two and sent them seperate directions. Therefore, we can never be as truly happy as the gods until we find the other half of our soul.

A few years ago, I thought that I had found my other half. Things didn't work out between us (I wanted to see the world and she was content with never leaving the backwoods) and we became best friends instead. In February, we were discussing gay marriage rights and I compared it to the civil rights struggle of the 1960's. She replied with, "Well, this might sound racists but it isn't. We brought those black people here so it's a problem that we just have to deal with".



Total stunned silence. If there is one thing that I despise more than a liar and a cheat, it's a racist. I can't imagine what would have happened had we gotten married and I found this out. The old statement really is true..."you always marry a stranger".

I haven't talked to her since and have absolutely no desire to. She can't fathom why I won't talk to her and eventually gave up and returned to her little, closed-minded world living in the sticks in Illinois. I think I'm more hurt by the fact that I had wanted to spend the rest of my life with a person filled with such evil, ignorant hatred.

Anyway, other than believing in Aristotle's version, I don't know what else to say. I'm still looking for my other half. Until then, I still feel this cold, empty void inside that will never feel the warmth of love.

Hope I've given you some insight...

Rob

P.S.
No off-topic relies to the issue of gay marriage rights and/or my comparison to the civil rights struggle of the 1960's please. It's too hot of an issue grounded in religious doctrine in which each has the "right answer", thereby nullifying any constructive debate. Sorry.

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KayinStorm