microsoftman

There's this girl I really like at school. She's going out with some lucky bastard right now, but I am going to spend the summer working to get some extra cash and lifting weights. I'm pretty sure this relationship between her and this guy isn't really going to last and her and I get along really well - so, what I need to know from you older veterans from the dating world is: what worked for you? ... I kind of feel dumb asking this, but who else could I really ask? I mean... you older guys out there have been dating and whatnot for much longer than me and I like this girl enough that I really don't want to chance it. so... anything... pickup lines... general advice... good restaurants.... type of flower... i dont' care. but keep in mind that i'm 16 and I'm not looking for cheesy barstool pickup lines or anything like that... so... yeah... hmmm

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godfoot

My suggestion is just be honest with her and tell her you are interested (if/when she breaks up). You never know what will work for whom. If she is even halfway smart she would probably see right through any pickup line anyway.
Or you can just say, "Yo biatch, you gonna give up the skins or what?!?"
I would recommend against the latter though.

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Jonny English

Uh-oh - reading between the lines I hear the F word... "friends".

My "advice" would be to forget it ... work hard over the summer, get a bit of a tan & get yourself buffed up a bit, and you'll probably meet someone else.

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Spectrum

Friends don't make good lovers. 'nouf said.

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Badaziam

Best advice I can give you is to be yourself and be honest. Also women/girls like to feel emotionally stimulated. Make sure to tell her nice things and make sure you notice the little things she does or says. Most of all have fun.

Vada Fae

Once your in the friends role, its almost impossible to get out. What friends means to a girl is, "I like hanging out with you, but i'm not attracted to you". The only thing that might work is to find someone else. A) You found someone else. B) It might make your friend jealous and she might chase you if things don't workout with your new "interest"

Devlyn81

Listen to what they said. aside from the "skins" thing. And remember your 16.the likelyhood this relationship,if it does blossum, will turn into a forever thing is slim to none. You'll have your heart ripped out and tapped danced on like a bad mariachi dancer multiple times before you realize relationships aren't smooth and you actualy have to work at them.
Or maybe thats just me.

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EstwingMan

I wish I could help you man, but I just got burned really bad by a woman this weekend and I’m still very upset. At 40yrs old, you’d think I would have seen it coming. I’d tell you to use ‘em and burn ‘em before they do it to you, but that would just be my anger talking right now. Normally I don’t think or feel like that.

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neotheducky

Hmm, I guess I dont see the problem with it like some of the others do. Maybe I dont have enough experience or something, but whatever.

If you still want to do it, be honest with her. Give her some time after the breakup; if you dont, it will look like you are trying to pick her up when she's down. So give it a few weeks. Dont try to be something your not, especially if you are going to try buffing up and what not. Ask her if she would like to do something, go out to a small restauraunt, catch a movie or something. If you make the first thing too big, you wont be able to do continue that unless you have endless supply of money. Plus, if its something you are both used to, you both can be comfortable and just have a good time. I dont see the point of expecting a kiss on the first date or any thereafter, plus it's no use to push it too far and too fast.

Hopefully some of that helps. Good luck with the girl.

G Money

First and foremost, don't go changing who you are for some girl. If she doesn't like you for who you are and wants you to change or whatever, dump her or don't bother. Knowing what I know now, have fun and enjoy your youth. Age will eventually get to you and you'll have the white picket fence and the wife. I'd say save up $1500 and fly to Pattaya, Thailand for 10 days when you are 18 and get your nutz off so many times you'll wonder why you even would want a committed relationship. That $1500 will cover everything so you'll always have a full stomach and empty sack.

The moral of the story is : Thai chicks rock and enjoy being young. Don't go all crazy over committments at 16. Ironically, women who see a guy that is a swingin' bachelor will want to grab him and put the collar on him, so you may get her by not acting all gaga over her.

The lifting weights and getting some cash is the most cheesiest thing I have heard. Earn the muscle and money for YOU, not HER.

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gorked

Some people talk about not getting involved in relationships when you're still young. You may cover up your ears, but sometimes, they're right. You may like this girl now, but you'll never know how you'll feel in a few months (or weeks). The same goes for the way the girl feels about you. All I can say is be prepared. Your heart may need some double-sided tape in awhile.

As for getting the girl, be yourself. You don't want to be pretending to be a person you're not. This will have a great impact on the relationship in the long run. Also, once you get her, keep telling her how pretty she is (she is pretty right?). Girls love that.

Btw, if you're really a pimp, girls will come to you.

stereomod

Quote: Originally Posted by Jonny English Uh-oh - reading between the lines I hear the F word... "friends". My "advice" would be to forget it ... work hard over the summer, get a bit of a tan & get yourself buffed up a bit, and you'll probably meet someone else.

yeah i have to agree with JE don't persue her or you will end up in more trouble and heartbreak than what you started with just wait it out and see what happens and i guess for the most part just be FRIENDS nothing more remember think with the head on your shoulders and not the one between your legs :

microsoftman

Quote: Originally Posted by G Money First and foremost, don't go changing who you are for some girl. If she doesn't like you for who you are and wants you to change or whatever, dump her or don't bother. Knowing what I know now, have fun and enjoy your youth. Age will eventually get to you and you'll have the white picket fence and the wife. I'd say save up $1500 and fly to Pattaya, Thailand for 10 days when you are 18 and get your nutz off so many times you'll wonder why you even would want a committed relationship. That $1500 will cover everything so you'll always have a full stomach and empty sack. The moral of the story is : Thai chicks rock and enjoy being young. Don't go all crazy over committments at 16. Ironically, women who see a guy that is a swingin' bachelor will want to grab him and put the collar on him, so you may get her by not acting all gaga over her. The lifting weights and getting some cash is the most cheesiest thing I have heard. Earn the muscle and money for YOU, not HER.

Valid points, and believe me, the money and the muscle is for me, not her. She's not really into that kind of thing anyway. And I'll keep Pattaya in mind if I'm still lonely at 18, I like pretty much all nationalities when it comes to hot women, but asians have always been my favorite.

And also, try to trust me when I try to say that I am trying to get her by being me and not by going all 'gaga' over her. We get along just fine without any of that... the fact that I think she's really pretty is just a plus if we were ever in a relationship.

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Hasnath

you might not wanna mention to this girl that you visit this site as she might look it up and find you delving into your heart

but then again she might find that "soo sweeeet" lol

microsoftman

um... I made a point of not ever mentioning her name. It is a fairly rare name, and if she ever googled her own name (which a lot of people end up doing once or twice) PR would surely be one of the first listings on google. But yeah... so... yeah... I didn't

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TheOutcast

I can say I was in almost the exact same sort of spot w/ this one girl I knew...

I was gonna ask her out, but I found out like a couple min before I was gonna that someone else already had (like 2 hrs before) and I got burned... still friends tho.. so, ups and downs to it...

But yeah, just whatever you do... prep. for the worst, and hope it goes better for you than me

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flounder405

Wll so far i have to agree with all these guy but here are a few little tidbits that might help you out.Be yourself,be honest wth her and if you are nervious about things dont say a word means that you might be moving to quick and would scare her off.Be creative alss make the date memoriable anyone can take someone to a dinner and a movie.Go to a nice coffee shop and the store and get some good grub for a little pinicand go to a nice place like a lake and just sit ,chill and talk.Then if things go well
(this is a early date mind you) then ask if she would like to go see a movie or something.I still keep in contact with a girl i took out that is blown away from me doing a date like that (15 years later).Had some help with some friends and they set up some candles and the pinic site when i went to get her.Good luck and hope all goes well.

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nev_payne

Quote: Originally Posted by microsoftman There's this girl I really like at school. She's going out with some lucky bastard right now, but I am going to spend the summer working to get some extra cash and lifting weights. I'm pretty sure this relationship between her and this guy isn't really going to last and her and I get along really well - so, what I need to know from you older veterans from the dating world is: what worked for you? ... I kind of feel dumb asking this, but who else could I really ask? I mean... you older guys out there have been dating and whatnot for much longer than me and I like this girl enough that I really don't want to chance it. so... anything... pickup lines... general advice... good restaurants.... type of flower... i dont' care. but keep in mind that i'm 16 and I'm not looking for cheesy barstool pickup lines or anything like that... so... yeah... hmmm

you really think lifting weights is gonna help you? i cant say it will to be quite honest with you - its how you come across in your personality - take me for example - ive got a rather large belly now and the man breasts are becoming rather large - but ive met liz from here and we're getting on like a house on fire. See how your friends think towards you and improve on that.

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Zykon

(been audited and general proven fact

only 25% of females are actualy atracted to the male body. they are much more atached mentaly, so dont be a dumb ****.

microsoftman

Quote: Originally Posted by nev_payne you really think lifting weights is gonna help you? i cant say it will to be quite honest with you - its how you come across in your personality - take me for example - ive got a rather large belly now and the man breasts are becoming rather large - but ive met liz from here and we're getting on like a house on fire. See how your friends think towards you and improve on that.

Sure Sure. I don't think that lifting weights is going to help me at all in terms of the relationship. That's just something I'm going to do... perhaps something you all should understand about me is that I am 6'6" tall and fairly well built. But I am also in this academic program that, for the last year, has caused me to excercise my mind much more than my body... and long story short I am in need of some excercise before tennis season in August.

One of the things I like about this girl is that I'd have about the same chance with her as the ugliest fattest guy in the school. She's got a big heart.

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