stereomod

OK heres the just of it

As i was seeing one of my friends that happens to have family that are foster parents she said that she had a baby with her(not hers) and when i went to look at the baby he/she started crying, now heres my big beef and this subject is not to be taken lightly


What are people thinking when they abuse and torcher their kids and why does society let this happen, Im not normally so upotight about the subject but then b4 going to meet my friend i went out with another friend to the local wally mart and kinda noticed that there are more and more teens having kids then they know what to do with and what erks my chains is that prolly about 1/3 of the kids that i have seen will end up being taken away from their parents just for some reason, I just wanted to make this public knowledge as it seems that most people are ignorant to the fact that this is happening

ok there i'm all typed out

Anathema

I'm not quite sure what all of the main ideas of your post are, but I will answer to the best of my ability.

There are lots of different reasons why teenagers are out and about having kids, but if you look at teen birth rate statistics, they are actually down from previous decades, supposedly. At least, that is how it is in America. Teens having kids is not really a new phenomenon, by any means.

One reason teenagers end up having kids is due to lack of proper education about sex, contraceptives, STDs, et cetera. Some kids are just stubborn and take on a "Nothing bad can happen to me, I'm invincible" mentality. Others just ignore the knowledge that might be imparted to them, and dabble in dangerous behavior, anyway.

Now, as for the part of your post where you mention abuse and torture, you're going to have to elaborate on that, because you kind of lost me there. Are you saying that because her foster parents allowed her to have the baby, that they are abusive? Or are you saying something else entirely? I can't really tell ya anything helpful about this part till I know what's going on.

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Devlyn81

I blame the overly broad interpretation of child abuse.
Spank a child and its physical abuse. Sned him to his room and its confinement. Raise your voice and its mental abuse.
Its no suprize to me theresa no discipline.
I for one am glad I was spanked. Wooden spoons and flyswatters were a bit much, but they must have dome something right.

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biohazardpc

Society looks different on kids having kid now days.. It is pretty much accepted for teens having sex and unfortunatly people do not really educate thier kids on protection..I would say abot 15 years ago it was really looked down upon.
Now on the abuse factor.. It is extreamly hard for society to define what abuse is..I do not believe in abuse but I do believe in spanking a child..I do not like spanking my daughter but at times it is necessary..As for other people abusing thier children has to do with thier moral views and how thye were raised..I also this deals with the age of the parent and how well they have been educated on parenting..

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stereomod

Quote: Originally Posted by Anathema I'm not quite sure what all of the main ideas of your post are, but I will answer to the best of my ability. There are lots of different reasons why teenagers are out and about having kids, but if you look at teen birth rate statistics, they are actually down from previous decades, supposedly. At least, that is how it is in America. Teens having kids is not really a new phenomenon, by any means. One reason teenagers end up having kids is due to lack of proper education about sex, contraceptives, STDs, et cetera. Some kids are just stubborn and take on a "Nothing bad can happen to me, I'm invincible" mentality. Others just ignore the knowledge that might be imparted to them, and dabble in dangerous behavior, anyway. Now, as for the part of your post where you mention abuse and torture, you're going to have to elaborate on that, because you kind of lost me there. Are you saying that because her foster parents allowed her to have the baby, that they are abusive? Or are you saying something else entirely? I can't really tell ya anything helpful about this part till I know what's going on.

no shes not the one that has the kids her mother and father are foster parents and they went to montreal and left her with the kid that they are watching over untill a new home can be found

and what i meant by the "torcher and abuse" is like how can anyone hurt a baby i mean what did it do to them , nothing, they are just young and defenseless
maybe its me but i just don't understand this whole thing about kids and having to worry about them

IF there is anyone in here who knows what im talking about plz let everyone know

and feel free to drop some rep points too!!! if you so choose to

nev_payne

over here the child abuse thing is getting way out of hand. Theres the 'regester' which defines all people that have abused a child in any worng way and those people aren ot allowed into jobs relating in anyway to children - the problem is that the whole system of that under blair is going upside down, making everyone scared, making them leave children at home, or not letting near neighbours or friends.

In homes over here its worse because parents neglect their children, expecting the TV and computer to take over - the TV to me is certain, the computer is something u look forward so around 8 or 9 but certainly no younger.

ahh thats off my chest now... what a wierd country this is becoming.

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Sparky

Quote: Originally Posted by stereomod As i was seeing one of my friends that happens to have family that are foster parents she said that she had a baby with her(not hers) and when i went to look at the baby he/she started crying, now heres my big beef and this subject is not to be taken lightly

So your saying that when you looked at the baby it started crying so it must be abused? Maybe she/he just didnt like the looks of ya....

As far as the teen pregnancy thing goes, i gotta stand behind my generation and say dont be an asshat. Ive met many mothers that are only 17, 18, or 19 and to tell you the truth lots of them were good mothers imo. Its true that their are some bad parents out there, but i think that pertains to about any group of people. Look at the military right now; our bad apples came out and made a stand but does that mean that any soldier that has served in Iraq is guilty of torture? No of course not, just like not every teen mom or dad out there is a bad parent. Also now a days we have a cure for this problem, adoption. Sure not all the abused children of the world are gonna get saved, but thats the world we live in. We do the best we can, and we keep up the good fight in whatever we set ourselves out to do. The world isnt pretty but its not getting any prettier by complaining about it. Just my .02 cents.

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Zykon

mm it seems to me that all of socity's problems are shown in wally world.....

i love how perents think that ther 2 year old can understand what they are yelling at them..mmmm i wanna kill each person i see do that

j-dogg

Quote: Originally Posted by Zykon mm it seems to me that all of socity's problems are shown in wally world.....

Agreed, who's bright idea was it to market the new Schwinn Sting-Ray in Wal-Mart? You know damn well there will be at least one Ray with the forks on backwards, and another Ray with two front wheels on it

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Evil3lf

My cousin is 18 and she has a beautiful young daughter. I resent your generalization that teen's aren't good parents, or ready for it. She has a great husband and she is making a great mother so far. She would give anything to make sure that child was happy in life, so would her husband. I think that the teens with children that arn't good parents is a smaller number then the ones that are good parents.

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stereomod

Quote: Originally Posted by Evil3lf My cousin is 18 and she has a beautiful young daughter. I resent your generalization that teen's aren't good parents, or ready for it. She has a great husband and she is making a great mother so far. She would give anything to make sure that child was happy in life, so would her husband. I think that the teens with children that arn't good parents is a smaller number then the ones that are good parents.

ok for one it wasn't a generaization and if anyone got that impression it was not meant to be that way i was just making a (opinion) from what i see here in my town and the province. Yes i will give those who take care of their a pat on the back and say good job however correct me if im wrong but for the most part that kinda stuff does happen and it just makes me mad comin from that kinda back ground where i was taken out of my home when i was just 13 but think of what it does to those children for the most part i mean when they see all that goingon and they don't understand it and think "why are they doing this" then that makes me kinda wonder for the most part, IF some parents should be allowed to have kids. Hell for the most part some parents do a good job however there are those who just don't give two @#$%'s about the kids and would rather use their welfare money for booze and gambling and not on the kids and that is what pisses me off

SexyPants

For a lot of young parents, I think it's a very mature decision. They get a little too frisky, get knocked up, and instead of getting an abortion (and in some places, teen abortions are very common) they'll decide to suck it up and pay for what they've done. Are they ready? You can ask them the same question and even they might say no.

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