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Friends...

The dictionary definition:
Friend - (n)
A person whom one knows, likes, and trusts.
A person whom one knows; an acquaintance.
A person with whom one is allied in a struggle or cause; a comrade.

When you meet someone there is always this new world of possibilities that opens. All kinds of opportunities present themselves for what could develop between two people.

Will you have lots in common? Will you learn new and wonderful things from one another? Will you even like each other? Will it develop into more than just a casual acquaintance? Will it be more than just friends? The only limits to this are what the people place on the encounter.

In life we all need relationships. Not necessarily "love" relations, but friendships. Who would want to go through life knowing you will never have a friend, confidant, pal or buddy? How boring life would be without our friends. No one to tell secrets to, share hopes, laugh with, care about, cry to, listen to, be there for the good bad and everything in between. That is not the life for me.

Does it matter what your friend looks like? Not usually the case. Otherwise who would tell you not to wear the striped shirt with the plaid pants? How about the smartest? That would get very boring if we could not learn from our friends. Or the skinniest? DonÂ’t know about everyone else, but I really dislike skinny people . So why did you pick your friends? Did you really pick them or did it just happen?

Friend to me is a confidant. Share points of view on some things, others you disagree on. You have similar values and core beliefs, most of the time. There is a commonality to most things with my friends. If I were to gather all my friends at one time, in one room it would be a good time for all. They would all get along so well!

Included in that group would have to be some of the people I have meet online. These are persons who have touched me and my life in some way, and left it better than it was before. Richer or more interesting. People for whom were it not for the internet I would never have met.

That brings me to my question; How long or how well do you know someone to consider them a friend? Do you differenciate your friends online from your friends off line (real life (RL) as some say)? After all they are real, too. Aren't they? They live, breath, have lives, feelings and are just as human as you. Is it because we do not see them it makes it somehow less important? Does this make them disposable? When did we become so rich in friends we could dispose of some?

Quote: Originally Posted by Eleanor Roosevelt Friends Many people will walk in and out of your life, but only true friends will leave footprints in your heart. To handle yourself, use your head; to handle others, use your heart. Anger is only one letter short of danger. If someone betrays you once, it is his fault; if he betrays you twice, it is your fault. Great minds discuss ideas; Average minds discuss events; Small minds discuss people. He, who loses money, loses much; He, who loses a friend, loses much more; He, who loses faith, loses all. Beautiful young people are accidents of nature, but beautiful old people are works of art. Learn from the mistakes of others; you can't live long enough to make them all yourself. Friends, you and me.... You brought another friend.... And then there were 3.... We started our group.... Our circle of friends.... And like that circle.... There is no beginning or end....

How do you define friend?

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Quote: Originally Posted by Foe Friends... The dictionary definition: Friend - (n) A person whom one knows, likes, and trusts. A person whom one knows; an acquaintance. A person with whom one is allied in a struggle or cause; a comrade.

As usual, very nicely done.

Online vs. in-person friends?
I have a few e-friends that are very near and dear to my heart but I've never met them in person. I cherish who they are and what they mean to me. Sometimes a 3 minute phone call or a short online instant message means more than the hour long in-person chat.

The difference between Friends and Acquaintances?
Friends have met all of the skeletons in your closet and still talk to you on purpose.

Very nice post Foe.....

Excellent writeup Foe.

How do I define a friend?
Well, your article wraps up most of how I define a friend. And it also leaves out some aspects of how we define a friend. It's like love. How do we define what we love and what kind of love it is. In our culture, we have different types of love; puppy love, phyiscal love, emotion love, soul-mates, etc. And as with love we have different kinds of friends. We have casual friends, sunny-day friends, boy/girl-friends, friend-friends, and trusted friends.

We all have a lot of casual friends. People that we are friends *polite to* when we are around them. For example, I'm a home and I have to share a lot of my land with the cougar. Now as *friends*, we'll say hi (or at least give a each other a nod) when pass by the creek. Weather if good, Neither of us are hunger, etc. so we are on good terms. Now when winter comes and food becomes difficult to find, I'll rip his throat out over dinner and he will do the same to me. We're simply casual friends.

On the other hand, in my pack there is also a Alpha Female. We are trusted friends. So during the middle of winter when food is scarce and only one of us finds a rabbit, we'll share it (Sure there's some growling and snapping but we have to an image to keep up). We share it some no one is completely hunger, just a little hungry.

A trusted-friend, or a true-friend, is one that is willing to get hurt while helping you. Whether it's physical, emotional, or financial; they are there for you.

While we all of *friends*, it's the true-friends that we should value the most. It can be said that the difference between casual friends and true-friends is love. With true-friends, there is agape love. A deep meaningful connection. There are still suprises (good and bad) in a that relationship, but that adds some spice to life.

In regards to Virtual (internet) Friends and RL Friends, is there a difference? For me, no. If I had an internet friend that needed help, I would help them as I would a RL friend. While they are different as apples and oranges, I am still their friend. And in most cases, the potential of being hurt by an internet friend is much more likely since it is easier for people to "pretend" to be your friend on the internet. However, it is much more difficult to find true-friends (agape) on the internet since there is no physical interaction regardless of how much people open themselves up. I didn't say impossible, just more difficult.

And it is possible for you to be my friend and not vice-versa.

Did that make sense (been typing while the phones been ringing)?

A friend: One who accepts me just the way I am, and do not try to change me into someone else.

I don't believe in the saying "Friends come and go". If it is a true friendship, it will always be there, no matter what happens. Maybe that is why most of my friendships are lifelong, and I know they will always be there when I need them just as I am always there when they might need me.

Another good DD

Thank you all for the great responses! Glad you enjoyed my DD post today.

A friend..How do I define....

I really havent had any trouble with people trying to change me or anything, mainly with trust issues though. Its hard to trust people, and the harder it is to trust they wont hurt you, the harder it is to love somone. I defien a friend as somone I can trust, some I can talk too about anything, somone whos been there and knows what to do (not some crazy physco bitch who thinks cutting is the answer to everything or doesnt say something that wont help with the situation, it will just make me feel bad even more) A friend doesnt have to be smart, doesnt have to be anything, except care. Care for me and you have my heart and the world along with it

A friend to me is someone who will help you kill someone, hide the body and lie about it.

Quote: Originally Posted by Spectrum A friend to me is someone who will help you kill someone, hide the body and lie about it.

To take it a step further, they'll take the blame and do the time... If they rat you out, make sure THEY are never found... LOL

A true friend will watch you squeeze the life out of her hand as you get stiches put in your face because you played a game of chicken with a storm drain and lost.

Then she will stay up all night and watch over you as you sleep and make sure nothing happens to you.

Foe , you gave me a warm fuzzy. l0l0l0l0l0l0

Friends!!!
Its a friend that sticks by you through the Good and the Bad . A friend that always has your back. I friend is like family. I friend is sometime hard to keep no matter what they do. Friends are good to have like the Pimprig Crew!!!

Quote: Originally Posted by NoSlak Foe , you gave me a warm fuzzy. l0l0l0l0l0l0

LOL! Awwwww, group grope!

My self i would just like to consider everyone on Pimprig to be my friend, Because you are all the best for helping any other fello pimp or pimpet and of curse helping me with any issues i have had in the pass.
Pimprig Freinds are the best.

Some of you may think your friends are the ones that would fork out the cash to bail you out of jail....
But your REAL friends are sitting there in jail beside you saying...." OH MY GOD DID YOU SEE THAT!!!"

Quote: Originally Posted by Sorrow A friend: One who accepts me just the way I am, and do not try to change me into someone else. I don't believe in the saying "Friends come and go". If it is a true friendship, it will always be there, no matter what happens. Maybe that is why most of my friendships are lifelong, and I know they will always be there when I need them just as I am always there when they might need me. Another good DD

A friend: One who accepts me just the way I am, and do not try to change me into someone else.

That is a good line.