This is dedicated to the many single people here at PimpRig in the dating scene.

When I finally got around to getting married I was 35 years old. What can I say, I enjoyed being single. Something that I never did when dating was play mind games. Never really saw the point. People trying to be something they're not, or lying to someone to try to lure them into a relationship. Only to reveal the real you in time, and have them run for the hills screaming. Wondering who the heck was that crazy person they just dated for a year.

Something else I never tried was online dating services. It really was not something that was being done then, but it sure is a pretty big option now. Estimates are between 40 - 60 million Americans who have dabbled in online dating, or personals. WOW! That is a bunch of folks trying to hook up with Mr. or Miss Right. You would think there would be couples happily meeting, and riding off into the sunset. Well, not so fast! Better do some homework first.

What if you think you have found the perfect mate through the personals online. By reading the personal information they sound worth checking out. So you do some correspondance, make some phone calls, and finally decide to meet for dinner. Then when you get to the great Italian resturant that took a month to get a reservation, only to meet and find your going to be dining with Quasimodo. Makes you wonder how accurate those online personals really are to the truth. In the modern internet world we live in for every point, there is always a counter point.

To help in your quest to find that perfect mate there is a site that can help steer you away from some of the bad dates, or find some good ones. This website is called http://www.truedater.com, "Fact and Fiction in Online Dating". It serves as a place for people to post a review of what the person in the profile is really like, as opposed to what their personal ad claims.

Quote: Join thousands who use TrueDater.com to share reviews of whether the information in people's online dating profiles is true or not. Using TrueDater.com is free, easy, and anonymous. Take a second now to enter some reviews of people you have met online!

The people who started the site in January 2005 have posted a FAQ that covers all the questions you may have on how this all works. FAQ Seems pretty easy so I browsed around reading some of the reviews to see how it was going. Really did expect some pretty brutal stuff, but I was surprised to see most of the reviews were either neutral or positive.

This one made me wonder why weren't they still dating if she was all that?

Profile: lovesanimals99 [show]

Dating Site: Match.com

Gender: Female

State: GA

Date Added: 7/23/2005

Reviews on Profile: lovesanimals99 (Match.com)

Great lady! ...July 23, 2005

By: atlpi

Very honest, open and sweet!


Maybe she had her Mom log in and give her a good review.....

And why is this next guy still single? Especially makes me wonder about the girl who wrote this. She must be one of those girls who likes the bad boys, and has to reject the decent ones.

Profile: WelcometotheUS [show]

Dating Site: Match.com

Gender: Male

State: TX

Date Added: 6/30/2005

Reviews on Profile: WelcometotheUS (Match.com)

The total package ...June 30, 2005

By: carriegirl79

After exchanging winks and a few emails, we met for coffee. He represented himself accurately in his profile, was a great conversationalist and was a complete gentleman. His pictures are good but he's even better looking in person. He's definately a great find!

Okay, so what was wrong with him?

Now don't get me wrong all the reviews were not quite so glowing...

Profile: 25311432 [show]

Dating Site: JDate

Gender: Female

State: CA

Date Added: 5/12/2005

Reviews on Profile: 25311432 (JDate)

Ice Queen ...May 12, 2005

By: anonymous

Tough to get along with. Icy. Brrrr.

LOL! Think this guy tried to grope her and got his face slapped?

Guess this next reviewer wanted a deep relationship, but all he got was sex. Isn't that what guys want? lol

Profile: 1091054538-096624

Dating Site: Yahoo Personals

Gender: Female

State: TX

Date Added: 5/9/2005

Reviews on Profile: 1091054538-096624 (Yahoo Personals)

If that's what you're into... ...May 9, 2005

By: subtodd PLEDGED TRUEDATER

Her profile is short, sweet and I suppose not particularly misleading, but all she wanted from me was easy sex. No date. No conversation. Just sex.

Uhmmmm...okay, who are you and what did you do with the real guy?

Last but not least we have just the straight up liar.

Profile: 1118520486-218872

Dating Site: Yahoo Personals

Gender: Male

State: ID

Date Added: 6/24/2005

Reviews on Profile: 1118520486-218872 (Yahoo Personals)

Lies! ...June 24, 2005

By: trudater

He lies about everything! He is a smoker. He is not a busines partner - just an employee of the company he works for! STAY AWAY!!

Stick a fork in this guy cause he is done in the online dating community.

Even in this day and age with all our technology, people are still having trouble finding that one special person they want to be with for the rest of their lives. It is a shame really when you think of all the people that just want to give love, and get love in return.

So what does all this prove? It proves that playing games in the dating world always catches up with you. Play it straight from the start. It saves your time, and the person your with. No need to force something that isn't there by lying or faking your way through it. In the end it will come to light.

Thank you for reading.

In upcoming Daily Disturbance posts from me:
* Social FoePahs: Got TP on your shoe!

* Surprise!

* Son of a %(&*()*&+@#!!!!

Aaaah, yes. The internet.

Before the internet a guy could only lie to 3, 4, 5, 10 girls at a time. Now he can lie to all of them simultaneously. And as Foe has pointed out, not if but when he gets busted, it's forever due to archiving.

Before the internet, a girl could look up at her guy and say, "I've never done that before..." Now, just look up her webcam stats to see not only has she done that, but how many times, and with guys that make you look like a twig.

Before the internet, stalking actually involved leaving the house.....

Before the internet, defamation of character/libel/false accusations were actually prosecutable offences. Now, as long as its posted in multiple places, it turns into fact.

Before the internet, crazy people could only annoy the crap out of people in their own region who read the papers or saw them on the street. Now, they can pizz off an entire world of people with their rantings . . . err. . .

never mind.

You mean I shouldn't say I'm rich as Bill Gates and look like Brad Pitt?

Great article Foe, SOMEDAY, I may attempt to date again, I'll have to keep this in mind

Great write up Foe!

Fortunately I've never been invovled in situations where the female, or myself, would have to lie to get the other person or pretend to be someone they're not. But on the flip side, the fun mind games have always been the cat and mouse chase type of games and the "were you just flirting with me?" type of mind games

Quote: Originally Posted by Graaille Aaaah, yes. The internet. Before the internet a guy could only lie to 3, 4, 5, 10 girls at a time. Now he can lie to all of them simultaneously. And as Foe has pointed out, not if but when he gets busted, it's forever due to archiving. Before the internet, a girl could look up at her guy and say, "I've never done that before..." Now, just look up her webcam stats to see not only has she done that, but how many times, and with guys that make you look like a twig. Before the internet, stalking actually involved leaving the house..... Before the internet, defamation of character/libel/false accusations were actually prosecutable offences. Now, as long as its posted in multiple places, it turns into fact. Before the internet, crazy people could only annoy the crap out of people in their own region who read the papers or saw them on the street. Now, they can pizz off an entire world of people with their rantings . . . err. . . never mind.

lol!! I guess this means stalkers will be putting on a lil extra weight then eh

It just shows that once you start lying............you'll need to continuously lie to cover the previous lies.........

So the morel is............don't lie

Amen Foe!! Great post.
Deja Vue - I have an e-friend that I met in person. I stated from the very beginning that I wasn't interested in a romantic relationship with this person, he still wanted to be friends and meet for coffee so I agreed. Public place, lots of people etc.. We met, talked, drank coffee and laughed for a couple of hours and then went our separate ways. Since that meeting he hasn't talked to me much online and at the beginning made excuses as to why. I don't believe it was because I was "different" in person. I really think he expected me to fall all over him once he was standing in front of me - when that didn't happen I think he was in some way offended that I didn't want him. He's a weightlifter, in great shape, etc. and I think he tends to date women who can't see through the smoke and mirrors.


I have a couple of e-friends that I haven't met in person but who have become very near and dear to my heart. I think of them often and hope that I get to meet them in person someday soon. I e-met these people on a singles site that I am still a member of. (I don't visit that site very much anymore 'cause I'm usually on PR.)

Ah yes, online dating. I tried a series of articles on this earlier this year and by and large, I did have some success in my research. Unfortunately a lot of people out there are still searching for the unattainable. They are seeking something which is beyond their reach and no, I'm not talking about a person's looks but a variety of many factors.

I gave up because by and large, I found that many people are not truthful in their pursuit. They have inflate their true selves until even their friends would be surprised to read their profile.

I've given up because I know that I'm going to die alone so why hope?

Rob

Quote: Originally Posted by Rob I've given up because I know that I'm going to die alone so why hope? Rob

Bologna! Don't make me come kick you in your tucus with such foolish talk! Do I have to flame you again?

Quote: Originally Posted by Foe Bologna! Don't make me come kick you in your tucus with such foolish talk! Do I have to flame you again?

Well, much of that comes from your flaming me...calling me "Post-It". I realized that much of it was true. Thanks for giving me a reality check, Foe.

Rob

P.S.

I'm just funnin' ya...but seriously, I think that I'm going to be single the rest of my life, whether it's my choice or not.

Quote: Originally Posted by Rob Well, much of that comes from your flaming me...calling me "Post-It". I realized that much of it was true. Thanks for giving me a reality check, Foe. Rob P.S. I'm just funnin' ya...but seriously, I think that I'm going to be single the rest of my life, whether it's my choice or not.

Poppy****!

You do know that Post-It notes com in all sizes....
Size Matters?

Quote: Originally Posted by Rob die alone so why hope? Rob

I too have a feeling that when my time comes I will be alone ie.. no one else around.

With that being said there are many soles on this rock and there is someone for everyone.

Sometimes it takes years to find the rite one but as Foe's article points out "Be yourself"
and you will find the rite one.

Thanks Foe for bringing to light the "Cat and Mouse" game!

hmm..the internet.....I hate it...always have..and always will. Couple reasons

1) You cant show MUCH emotion

2) Physical Being- You cant show your "true" colors if you arent in person..sure you can talk on the phone and all...but still..

3) Why do I get all the cutters and sucide chicks? It does getting annoying after a while (really annoying..) and I dont feel sorry for you anymore, except to stop it, its not helping you in anyway.

4) Cant people tell the truth? If you think Im ugly..Tell me..Dont tell me Im hot or cute or anything...(and I know its a lie) Tell me the truth. Id tell you the truth...(but really..all women are beautiful)

5) In general Screw it..Its too much of a hassle...Sure its good if you have a relationship in person...but if its JUST internet...then its not worth it.

6) Love itself is a pain in the a$$to manage.

Let me tell you..........the online dating doesn't work.........you need to just meet people in person..............feel the energy............

I first met my wife on a Telnet BBS (GASP! I KNOW!) back in 1998. She was in Washington, and I was in Missouri. We chatted and snail-mailed for about 9 months before meeting in person in October. We spent about a week together, before separating again for college. That December, we again met in person and I proposed. She left again to finish college, we married over spring break, and have since been married for over 10 years. We have 2 wonderful kids and a great marriage overall.

Sadly, this is a unique story. The online dating game is sketchy, at best. We now have digital cameras and e-mail for instant "appearance reviews." Unfortunately, we also have Photoshop. If the person you're dying to see doesn't have Photoshop, they probably have a new whiz-bang computer, and tons of pictures, but they proclaim to be too stupid to upload a photo. Hmmm...

The internet has also been the birthplace of more politically-correct terms and all of those wonderful acronyms. At one time, I had a list of my take on their "true" meanings. It's kind of like the military "engaging the objective." I remember when we used to "kill the enemy." Now you can find a BBW almost everywhere you look. Personally, I've decided that they are "JAFC." There are definitely a few Big Beautiful Women out there, but most are Just Another Fat Chick.

I met my wife by accident, no kidding. If you're actively seeking love online, plan on working at it a while. Forget the "You Have Mail" crap, and understand that this is real life. It's never that easy.

I met Nikki online before meeting her in person as well....
She was what I expected....
And I wasn't untruthfull to her so the same was exchanged.
The idea of online dating is simple if all parties are TRUTHFULL in their responses...

I can't help but to think of LAWANDUH in Napoleon Dynamite after reading this article...
Good write up again FOE.